You are on the golf course hitting great shots and scoring poorly. How frustrating. Has this ever happened to you? How you handle depends on your abilities to observe, adjust, and most importantly, how you treat yourself.
Last weekend I was playing an afternoon round at my club, Blue Mash, where I have an expectation for a score between a 73 and 78, on a normal day. I noticed something was off from the first tee box where the markers were pushed back, and the hole was playing into the wind. My tee shot was well struck and barely cleared a fairway bunker which is normally an easy carry. I had 5-iron in where I usually take 8 or 9 and made bogey. It became clear from the setup and conditions that the course would play long and difficult. I bogeyed the first five holes and could safely say that I hit a great shot on each of those holes. At this point, I had a decision regarding how I would approach the remainder of the round.
When you are not rewarded for good effort, you get upset. Dr. Bob Rotella says that when distracted by bad play or bad scores, you need to be your best friend out on the course because nobody else is there to help you. I agree and have learned that positive self-talk is key and to not get down on myself. I also understand that you can’t confuse effort with results. Imagine how the tour pros felt on the final day of the 2020 US Open. Only one (Bryson DeChambeau) managed to break 70 in the final round. These guys were clearly scoring 5-10 strokes worse than a normal day and were grinding terribly. They were frustrated and you could see how their scoring affected their game. De Chambeau didn’t let it alter his attitude and approach and was victorious. The guy is comfortable in his own skin and despite being a bit of an odd duck, is clearly his own best friend.
The temptation after a bad start is to press and try to save the round. Last weekend, I had to resist by using positive self-talk and to try and focus on the next shot. I was partially successful and finished with an 11-over 82. Normally, after shooting a poor score, I’ll stew about it for a day or two, but I honestly felt that was the worst I could have scored for the way I played and the conditions that presented themselves. The previous week, I hit the ball horrendously and carded an 8-over 79 on a different track, which was the absolute best I could have shot considering my ball striking. Still, I took some positives away from that round and felt that my short game saved me from carding a round in the mid 80s. The key in both situations is to understand and adjust to the current conditions and not get down on yourself. Be your own best friend! If you can do this, you will be mentally tough to beat.
Obviously, I have some areas of my game that need work. I’ve got a tournament coming up a week from Monday, and a trip to the eastern shore to play on some tough venues. I’m off to the course to practice.
Do you confuse effort with results?
Are you your own best friend?